Researchers have studied that married people are happier and live longer than single people. I have always hoped to be married before I was 30. I am at the part of my life to where I want to share it with some one. I want them to be interested in the things I like to do and vice versa. They have to actually care about you and wonder what you are up to and actually take the time out of their day.
I recently got out of a relationship. When it began it was great. I honestly thought it would go longer than it did, I put in a lot of effort to make it work. He did at first, but it stopped about half way into it. I have no idea why and he has told me he really doesn’t know either, but I think he did and didn’t want to say anything. I continued with it after I saw that he stopped communicating (calls, messages, texts) just to see how long it would go. I got a lot out of it. He always paid for everything and I felt bad but everyone told me not to worry about it because that’s what guys are suppose to do. I always was driving down there. He rarely came to see me. If you cared enough about someone and wanted to be around them, wouldn’t you make the effort? (I know several people who make it work with longer distances). My parents didn’t care if he stayed at our house. He cared for some reason. When I asked him if he wanted to come watch my games when the season started up, I could tell he really didn’t want to come watch. He never told me why. I always did the things he was interested in. There were some things I didn’t like about him (there will always be some stuff you don’t like about another person). He was a bad communicator, I initiated everything, he wasn’t very compassionate, played too many video games and computer games, drank too much with his friends and most of the time cared about his friends more than me.
Sometimes I felt more like a buddy than a girlfriend. I saw a huge change seven months into it. He flat out asked me “how is this a relationship?” A relationship is indefinable. It is what you make of it. It’s what you perceive it to be. It’s what you put into it. We were less than three hours apart…really not that bad compared to others I know. Like I said before, if you care enough about that person, the distance doesn’t matter. He had a weird work schedule and it worked until I started fastpitch. He couldn’t wait until May like we had planned. I told him when we got into this that I couldn’t move until the next summer (2010). He seemed okay with it then, what the hell changed? Maybe he was done with the routine or he didn’t like that I couldn’t spend time with him very much, I doubt that, but you never know. I’m not saying that it’s anyone’s fault or trying to point fingers at anyone, I would just like to have seen him make the effort if he really liked me. Maybe he didn’t and this was an eight month long fling.
Maybe this is a precursor to something better? I believe all things happen for a reason. I was suppose to meet and spend time with this person only for a brief moment in time and will I ever know why? Maybe, sometime down the road. Relationships are hard and even harder to maintain and I’m definitely up for the challenge if given another chance. I hope it’s the last one because I’m ready to stop looking.
Monday, April 26
Saturday, April 24
Great Wolf Lodge with Fitzy
The Great Wolf Lodge opened in 2008 just south of Grand Mound and north of Centralia. I never thought I would ever go mostly because it is an expensive place. You couldn't just go for the water park, you have to pay for a hotel room and the water park as a package.
One of my friends, Fitzy, was attending an athletic training convention in one of their large conference rooms and one of the perks was that they received two free tickets to go inside the water park for that day. She called me and invited to go with her because Chaise doesn't really like water all that much. I told her sure and when I should be there. We really didn't need to spend a huge amount of time there.
I got my suit and towel and drove the 20 miles to Grand Mound. I met her outside the facility of course it rained.
We went inside, showed them our tickets and made our way to the locker rooms to change. We got a key for our locker so our valuables wouldn't get stolen by punk kids. I have never seen a water park indoors before. There was a small store that sold water toys, suits and goggles, a snack shack, tables, bathrooms and the giant wave pool. Off to the side was a kiddy pool, water buckets, small slides, the hot tub and water gun devices. The large water slides and the tornado was behind the smaller slides. There were kids waiting in lines for those.
We decided to hit the large water slides and the tornado first. We ended up doing the slides and tornado a couple of times before spending some time in the wave pool and the hot tub.
This place was definitely catered for kids. I probably would have had more fun if this place was around 20 years ago. We still had fun though, especially when we screamed inside the tornado, haha. We were there for probably a good 4 hours and eventually the chlorine got to us. I can't be in an indoor area with chlorine for too long or I start to feel sick.
We got our stuff out of the lockers, showered and got dressed. I saw a hilarious sign and I just couldn't help myself.
But just remember do not pee or poop in the pool, HAHA!
Afterwards we went to Dairy Queen for their promotional 25 cent blizzards. I got Oreo, my favorite kind. I thanked Fitzy for inviting me along and we both went home.
Next Adventure: TBA
One of my friends, Fitzy, was attending an athletic training convention in one of their large conference rooms and one of the perks was that they received two free tickets to go inside the water park for that day. She called me and invited to go with her because Chaise doesn't really like water all that much. I told her sure and when I should be there. We really didn't need to spend a huge amount of time there.
I got my suit and towel and drove the 20 miles to Grand Mound. I met her outside the facility of course it rained.
We went inside, showed them our tickets and made our way to the locker rooms to change. We got a key for our locker so our valuables wouldn't get stolen by punk kids. I have never seen a water park indoors before. There was a small store that sold water toys, suits and goggles, a snack shack, tables, bathrooms and the giant wave pool. Off to the side was a kiddy pool, water buckets, small slides, the hot tub and water gun devices. The large water slides and the tornado was behind the smaller slides. There were kids waiting in lines for those.
We decided to hit the large water slides and the tornado first. We ended up doing the slides and tornado a couple of times before spending some time in the wave pool and the hot tub.
This place was definitely catered for kids. I probably would have had more fun if this place was around 20 years ago. We still had fun though, especially when we screamed inside the tornado, haha. We were there for probably a good 4 hours and eventually the chlorine got to us. I can't be in an indoor area with chlorine for too long or I start to feel sick.
We got our stuff out of the lockers, showered and got dressed. I saw a hilarious sign and I just couldn't help myself.
But just remember do not pee or poop in the pool, HAHA!
Afterwards we went to Dairy Queen for their promotional 25 cent blizzards. I got Oreo, my favorite kind. I thanked Fitzy for inviting me along and we both went home.
Next Adventure: TBA
Sunday, March 21
RIP Jay Nelson
Apparently the weekend of February 19th, he and a few friends (and girls) went out to Deschutes Falls...out past Cougar Mountain/Bald Hills area and had a camping trip. There was drinking of course and I guess some fighting (over girls?) also occurred during the course of the night. I also heard there might have been flare guns/fireworks and possibly a firearm at the camping sit as well. Jay was way beyond comprehension and one of his friends became the babysitter by putting a stop to it and making him go to bed, I'm uncertain of how close this camp site was to the falls and the ledge. The next morning Jay was not where they had left him so they assumed he left and went home (someone would have heard something) but they all picked up their stuff and left. Later on that day, they all found out he wasn't home and no one had seen him. They called the cell phone, no answer. So they all went back up there and started looking. Monday afternoon is when I heard about it and looked it up on King 5 news.com. The Thurston County search and rescue along with 200 other people searched the area for two days. The S&R claimed that they were 99% sure he was not in the water and kind of loitered in the area while his dad tried to see what they were hiding from them (they would not let anyone down there except the S&R team). On Wednesday afternoon he was finally found directly below of where they thought he fell off into the river. They found him 15 feet under the water. So we have no idea why the S&R team were lying to them. He had died on February 20.
These are some of the questions about it that still have not been clarified:
Below is a list of questions that need to be immediately asked and there also needs to be an investigation of the head of the official Search and Rescue operation.
1. Why, after only 1 day after Jay went missing, was the official land search called off after the family had been told that the dive team had searched everywhere and there was no body in the water?
2. Why, after only 2 days after Jay went missing, has the official land search not been restarted since the dive team stated on Monday that they are 99.9% certain that there is no body in the water?
3. Why has the family been told that anyone who continues to search will be arrested for trespassing, even though the official search has been called off?
4. Why did it take 9 hours after Jay was reported missing for Search and Rescue to start a search, beginning after dark?
5. Why were friends and family members threatened with arrest if they aided in the official search, even though they were familiar with and lived in the area, but young Explorers unfamiliar with the area were allowed to search?
6. Why was Jay’s family’s assistance dismissed and ignored, leading to the wrong item of clothing, that of a non-missing male, being used by the search dogs.
7. Why is there a policy to search urgently for a missing child or female, but less importance is placed on a missing male, as stated by a member of the Search and Rescue team?
8. Why were those who were last with Jay not questioned immediately, in light of the fact that one male locked himself in his bedroom refusing to talk to anyone, other males who were with Jay when he went missing have not helped in the search, and those involved have had different stories and have also changed their stories about what happened the night before Jay went missing.
Either someone is lying and fears going to prison or he got up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and got disoriented and fell. I won't know until someone comes clean. I still haven't heard about the autopsy report and what they had found.
March 1 was the saddest day I've ever had. I really didn't know Jay very well but we did hang out a lot when we were kids because of church activities and he and his family living behind us for several years. Being six years older, that's quite a gap especially since we really weren't that close to begin with. The whole town packed itself into the Rainier Sportsmen's Club. The ceremony was sad yet beautiful and touching. I just about knew everyone there. I haven't seen that much of my relatives since I was a little kid and we were down at Woodbrook Chapel with some sort of church event. When I went passed that open casket, my heart sank. I will never forget the way I felt when I looked at his body lying there in the box. Part of me thought he was going to wake up, climb out of the box and hug everyone but then I came into realization that he was gone and we were looking at his shell. For weeks after the funeral, I still can't get that image out of my mind. We drove to where his final resting place was, the Yelm Cemetery. Tons of people made the drive out. It didn't last that long but his grandmother, mother and father had a tough time. We went back to the Sportsmen's Club to reminisce and eat some food.
Life is precious and can be taken away from us at any given moment. Please please make good choices.
Rest in Peace Jay.
These are some of the questions about it that still have not been clarified:
Below is a list of questions that need to be immediately asked and there also needs to be an investigation of the head of the official Search and Rescue operation.
1. Why, after only 1 day after Jay went missing, was the official land search called off after the family had been told that the dive team had searched everywhere and there was no body in the water?
2. Why, after only 2 days after Jay went missing, has the official land search not been restarted since the dive team stated on Monday that they are 99.9% certain that there is no body in the water?
3. Why has the family been told that anyone who continues to search will be arrested for trespassing, even though the official search has been called off?
4. Why did it take 9 hours after Jay was reported missing for Search and Rescue to start a search, beginning after dark?
5. Why were friends and family members threatened with arrest if they aided in the official search, even though they were familiar with and lived in the area, but young Explorers unfamiliar with the area were allowed to search?
6. Why was Jay’s family’s assistance dismissed and ignored, leading to the wrong item of clothing, that of a non-missing male, being used by the search dogs.
7. Why is there a policy to search urgently for a missing child or female, but less importance is placed on a missing male, as stated by a member of the Search and Rescue team?
8. Why were those who were last with Jay not questioned immediately, in light of the fact that one male locked himself in his bedroom refusing to talk to anyone, other males who were with Jay when he went missing have not helped in the search, and those involved have had different stories and have also changed their stories about what happened the night before Jay went missing.
Either someone is lying and fears going to prison or he got up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and got disoriented and fell. I won't know until someone comes clean. I still haven't heard about the autopsy report and what they had found.
March 1 was the saddest day I've ever had. I really didn't know Jay very well but we did hang out a lot when we were kids because of church activities and he and his family living behind us for several years. Being six years older, that's quite a gap especially since we really weren't that close to begin with. The whole town packed itself into the Rainier Sportsmen's Club. The ceremony was sad yet beautiful and touching. I just about knew everyone there. I haven't seen that much of my relatives since I was a little kid and we were down at Woodbrook Chapel with some sort of church event. When I went passed that open casket, my heart sank. I will never forget the way I felt when I looked at his body lying there in the box. Part of me thought he was going to wake up, climb out of the box and hug everyone but then I came into realization that he was gone and we were looking at his shell. For weeks after the funeral, I still can't get that image out of my mind. We drove to where his final resting place was, the Yelm Cemetery. Tons of people made the drive out. It didn't last that long but his grandmother, mother and father had a tough time. We went back to the Sportsmen's Club to reminisce and eat some food.
Life is precious and can be taken away from us at any given moment. Please please make good choices.
Rest in Peace Jay.
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